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What a Difference College Life Makes

It's funny how college can change the relationship between a parent and child. It certainly has changed mine.

Since my daughter went away to school, we talk EVERYDAY. She calls up and says the same thing:

"Whatcha doin'?"
My standard response is, "On the computer."
Then she says, "Guess what?"...and proceeds to tell me a story about something that happened in one of her classes or on the campus.

It's so funny because when we were living in the same house,there were times when we would go without speaking for days. Menopause and PMS ruled our worlds!

But now it seems there is less stress and anxiety to deal with. We're getting along very nicely from a distance. The truth of the matter is, I believe we have come to a point where we are really learning to respect each other. My daughter is finally starting to see there has been a method to my "You better get your butt in gear!" madness for the past four years. I, meanwhile, am seeing a caterpillar begin to break out into a beautiful butterfly.

Yeah, both of us are still a little rough around the edges with even more growing to do----but we now know we have a purpose----and it's a little boy named Jarod.


PopArtDiva said…
Bev, I'll bet you're loving this new era of your relationship.

Funny isn't it how mothers and daughters go through the stages of life - I remember when I first moved out how much I missed my Mom and I called her often too. If you would have told me that I would before I moved out I wouldn't have believed it.
Karen O'Bannon said…
It's such a beautiful turning point when mother and daughter become friends.
mkpelland said…
I enjoy your blog so much I decided to include it in a list of excellent baby boomer blogs for my boomer techy blog at - Thanks for the good writing, and best to you.
Pam Archer said…
Isn't is something to watch our kids grow into adults in a matter of months? We become much smarter than when they left home. LOL It's good to hear that you are having a good relationship and that the doors of communication are open.
Beverly said…

I don't know how you found me but I'm glad you did and you stopped by to say hello. It''s definitely a "BoomerWorld!"

Come check us out at Boomer Diva Nation also--that's where all of the baby boomer divas hang out!
Melodieann said…
At my daughter's high school graduation, the speaker made a statement that it would me surprising how much smarter we parents would become after our children left home. In other words, just as you are experiencing right now, sometimes our daughters need to get away from us to understand how much we love them and that most of the time we really did know best. Don't understand why this is so, but it is. Enjoy the new direction your relationship is taking.

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