Is marriage really better the second time around? As one who falls into that category, I say absolutely! I'm very excited and feel blessed to have been given another opportunity to love again.
Isn't it interesting how differently we think when we're young as opposed to when we grow older and wiser? When I look back over my younger days, I realize I spent way too much time craving the WRONG man for all of the RIGHT reasons. I wanted to feel love, to be loved, and to give love in return but the sex clouded my judgement in making sure I was choosing the right mate.
One of the beautiful things about growing older is it gives us the benefit of wisdom. That, in turn, allows us to make smarter choices. As for me, I'm smart enough not to believe in love at first sight anymore. One reason being, I don't see quite as well as I used to. I'm also smart enough to be more discriminating in my taste. I've learned how to weed out the imitation from the real thing.
So now I'm happy to say God has blessed me with a new love. He's a man who's strong enough to deal with my strengths, yet gentle enough to understand and cope with my emotional stress and strife. I'm totally enjoying my second marriage and yes, it makes lusting after him even better!
Excerpts taken from Chapter Two of my book, Whatever! A Baby Boomer's Journey Into Middle Age
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Saturday, June 05, 2010
Wednesday, January 07, 2009
Me and My Computer
The house is quiet once again.
Today, I took my daughter back to college for her second semester. Hubby is back in the DC area where he works during the week. My grandson is off visiting other relatives—so it’s just me and my computer.
For the past three weeks our home has been filled with lots of laughter and love and, yes, even some arguments. But all in all, it’s been a blast having my husband and daughter home for more than a weekend. It has given us a chance to grow closer as a family.
But now the family is off doing their own thing once again, while it’s just me and my computer. Thank God for computers because this is my way to stay connected.
Do you stay in touch with your family via computer and if so, how often?
Today, I took my daughter back to college for her second semester. Hubby is back in the DC area where he works during the week. My grandson is off visiting other relatives—so it’s just me and my computer.
For the past three weeks our home has been filled with lots of laughter and love and, yes, even some arguments. But all in all, it’s been a blast having my husband and daughter home for more than a weekend. It has given us a chance to grow closer as a family.
But now the family is off doing their own thing once again, while it’s just me and my computer. Thank God for computers because this is my way to stay connected.
Do you stay in touch with your family via computer and if so, how often?
Thursday, April 10, 2008
How to Love a Baby Boomer Diva Part II
Give Her Something to Smile About
Come up with creative ways to do something different for your baby boomer diva everyday. Let her know you’re thinking about her throughout the day with an email or a phone call (leave a message if she doesn’t answer). She will appreciate the fact that you took time out of your busy day to think of her.
Just because you aren’t together all the time doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do things to let her know how much you care for her. Remember, intimacy has to leave the bedroom sometimes in order to be totally effective. What does that mean? It means you can do other things to connect with your baby boomer diva emotionally:
1) Why not send her flowers as a token of the love you feel for her along with a “love note.”
2) Take a day off from work and be her “maid for a day” where you handle all of the household chores including her “personal needs.”
3) Take her out for a night on the town and treat it as a first date.
4) Send her flowers at work just because . (even if she’s a work-at-home-mom). It doesn’t have to be connected to a special day. Just let her know you love her and want her to know it.
5) Run her bath water complete with candles and then have a nice, warm towel waiting for her when she gets out of the tub. (A personal favorite of mine.)
Come up with creative ways to do something different for your baby boomer diva everyday. Let her know you’re thinking about her throughout the day with an email or a phone call (leave a message if she doesn’t answer). She will appreciate the fact that you took time out of your busy day to think of her.
Just because you aren’t together all the time doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do things to let her know how much you care for her. Remember, intimacy has to leave the bedroom sometimes in order to be totally effective. What does that mean? It means you can do other things to connect with your baby boomer diva emotionally:
1) Why not send her flowers as a token of the love you feel for her along with a “love note.”
2) Take a day off from work and be her “maid for a day” where you handle all of the household chores including her “personal needs.”
3) Take her out for a night on the town and treat it as a first date.
4) Send her flowers at work just because . (even if she’s a work-at-home-mom). It doesn’t have to be connected to a special day. Just let her know you love her and want her to know it.
5) Run her bath water complete with candles and then have a nice, warm towel waiting for her when she gets out of the tub. (A personal favorite of mine.)
Friday, April 04, 2008
National Girlfriend's Day
I received an email today informing me that it was National Girlfriend's Day. I thought to myself, what makes this day different from any other day? I celebrate my friendships with my fellow baby boomer divas EVERYDAY!
Why?
Well, what would most of us do without our sisters, confidants and shopping, lunching, and traveling buddies? What would we do without the wonderful and powerful online connections we've made? I say let's celebrate each other for each other's sake!
So here's to my fellow baby boomer divas in celebration of this special day!!!
Someone will always be prettier.
Someone will always be smarter..
Their house will be bigger.
They will drive a better car.
Their children will do better in school.
And their husband will fix more things around the house.
So let it go, Be Happy!
And love yourself and your circumstances.
Think about it. The prettiest woman in the world can have
trouble in her heart.
And the most highly favored woman on your job may be
unable to have children.
And the richest woman you know, she's got the car,
the house, the clothes....might be lonely.
And the Word says if "I have not Love, I have nothing."
So, again, love you.
Love who you are.
Look in the mirror in the morning and smile and say "I'm too blessed to be stressed and to anointed to be disappointed!'
I like that!
Winners make things happen.
Losers let things happen
There are no LOSERS in my circle of friends. We are the fabulous women of Boomer Diva Nation.
Why?
Well, what would most of us do without our sisters, confidants and shopping, lunching, and traveling buddies? What would we do without the wonderful and powerful online connections we've made? I say let's celebrate each other for each other's sake!
So here's to my fellow baby boomer divas in celebration of this special day!!!
Someone will always be prettier.
Someone will always be smarter..
Their house will be bigger.
They will drive a better car.
Their children will do better in school.
And their husband will fix more things around the house.
So let it go, Be Happy!
And love yourself and your circumstances.
Think about it. The prettiest woman in the world can have
trouble in her heart.
And the most highly favored woman on your job may be
unable to have children.
And the richest woman you know, she's got the car,
the house, the clothes....might be lonely.
And the Word says if "I have not Love, I have nothing."
So, again, love you.
Love who you are.
Look in the mirror in the morning and smile and say "I'm too blessed to be stressed and to anointed to be disappointed!'
I like that!
Winners make things happen.
Losers let things happen
There are no LOSERS in my circle of friends. We are the fabulous women of Boomer Diva Nation.
Thursday, February 14, 2008
My Baby Boomer Valentine
Honey, even though you’re getting older with signs of gray
I want you to know I love you more and more each day.
My sexy handsome husband, you’re so worthy of my attention
'Cause you still know how to crank up that old engine.
Your love, your kisses are pure delight
And it’s a joy to snuggle up to you every night.
Thank you for coping with my menopause day after day after day
And finally figuring out that sometimes it’s just best to get out of my way!
Yes, even today you still make me hotter than a hot flash and that’s no lie
My Baby Boomer Valentine, I’ll be yours until the day YOU die.
Original Poem written by Beverly Mahone
I want you to know I love you more and more each day.
My sexy handsome husband, you’re so worthy of my attention
'Cause you still know how to crank up that old engine.
Your love, your kisses are pure delight
And it’s a joy to snuggle up to you every night.
Thank you for coping with my menopause day after day after day
And finally figuring out that sometimes it’s just best to get out of my way!
Yes, even today you still make me hotter than a hot flash and that’s no lie
My Baby Boomer Valentine, I’ll be yours until the day YOU die.
Original Poem written by Beverly Mahone
Friday, February 08, 2008
We're Fun, We're Fabulous & We're Grandmothers
This week two of my friends became grandmothers. One of them is Carine Nadel. Some of you may know her from her blog: carine-whatscooking.blogspot.com The other is author, Vicki M. Taylor: vickimtaylor.com Both women are members of Boomer Diva Nation---a group I created where boomer women rock, roll, rule and unite!
As I read the announcements from Carine and Vicki, I could feel the excitement in their spirits! I could also feel their sense of relief that their little girls had made it through a successful delivery. That's because they both lived through nine anxious months and had to cope with their daughter's health issues.
In September 2006, I went through a similar experience when my daughter gave birth.
So here we all are preparing to lend our support and a little (or maybe ALOT) influence to our new little ones. We will love them, spoil them and silently hurt when they hurt.
People may look at us and say we're too young to be grandmothers. I, personally, take that as a compliment. I'm excited to have my health and strength to be able to deal with my grandson as he gets older. I'm sure Carine and Vicki share my sentiments.
So in this blog I am saluting Carine, Vicki and all of the Fabulous Diva grandmothers out there! It's a true blessing indeed!!!
As I read the announcements from Carine and Vicki, I could feel the excitement in their spirits! I could also feel their sense of relief that their little girls had made it through a successful delivery. That's because they both lived through nine anxious months and had to cope with their daughter's health issues.
In September 2006, I went through a similar experience when my daughter gave birth.
So here we all are preparing to lend our support and a little (or maybe ALOT) influence to our new little ones. We will love them, spoil them and silently hurt when they hurt.
People may look at us and say we're too young to be grandmothers. I, personally, take that as a compliment. I'm excited to have my health and strength to be able to deal with my grandson as he gets older. I'm sure Carine and Vicki share my sentiments.
So in this blog I am saluting Carine, Vicki and all of the Fabulous Diva grandmothers out there! It's a true blessing indeed!!!
Saturday, January 19, 2008
What a Difference a Day Makes in a Baby Boomer's Life
Back in 1959, a singer named Dinah Washington won a Grammy for her rendition of the song, “What a Difference a Day Makes.”
My parents had the record which they played quite often. OK---I'm showing my age but this blog is for baby boomers who can reflect back on days gone by.
Anyway, I have always loved that song for a number of reasons. First, I love Dinah Washington’s sultry voice and especially the duets she used to do with Brook Benton. Second, the song has such meaning. Even though she is singing about romance, I can’t help but think of how much life can change in just 24 little hours.
In a 24 hour period, I almost lost my daughter. I went from having a child on the brink of death to being able to walk out of the hospital---what a difference that day made. In another 24 hour period, my husband was hundreds of miles away but was returned safely to me.
I’m learning not to take anything for granted because I understand more and more that 24 hours can change the course of your life forever.
“What a diff'rence a day makes
Twenty-four little hours
Brought the sun and the flowers
Where there used to be rain
My yesterday was blue, dear
Today I'm part of you, dear
My lonely nights are through, dear
Since you said you were mine
What a diff'rence a day makes
There's a rainbow before me
Skies above can't be stormy
Since that moment of bliss, that thrilling kiss
It's heaven when you
Find romance on your menu
What a diff'rence a day makes
And the difference is you
What a diff'rence a day makes
There's a rainbow before me
Skies above can't be stormy
Since that moment of bliss, that thrilling kiss
It's heaven when you
Find happiness on your menu
What a diff'rence a day makes
And the difference is you.
My parents had the record which they played quite often. OK---I'm showing my age but this blog is for baby boomers who can reflect back on days gone by.
Anyway, I have always loved that song for a number of reasons. First, I love Dinah Washington’s sultry voice and especially the duets she used to do with Brook Benton. Second, the song has such meaning. Even though she is singing about romance, I can’t help but think of how much life can change in just 24 little hours.
In a 24 hour period, I almost lost my daughter. I went from having a child on the brink of death to being able to walk out of the hospital---what a difference that day made. In another 24 hour period, my husband was hundreds of miles away but was returned safely to me.
I’m learning not to take anything for granted because I understand more and more that 24 hours can change the course of your life forever.
“What a diff'rence a day makes
Twenty-four little hours
Brought the sun and the flowers
Where there used to be rain
My yesterday was blue, dear
Today I'm part of you, dear
My lonely nights are through, dear
Since you said you were mine
What a diff'rence a day makes
There's a rainbow before me
Skies above can't be stormy
Since that moment of bliss, that thrilling kiss
It's heaven when you
Find romance on your menu
What a diff'rence a day makes
And the difference is you
What a diff'rence a day makes
There's a rainbow before me
Skies above can't be stormy
Since that moment of bliss, that thrilling kiss
It's heaven when you
Find happiness on your menu
What a diff'rence a day makes
And the difference is you.
Friday, November 30, 2007
A Family Affair: Baby Boomer Style
One of the things my husband and I talked about when we were dating (a few years ago) was the fact that we were going to put ourselves in a position of being financially independent. We weren’t going to rely on Corporate America to take care of us into retirement.
We are two intelligent and highly motivated individuals who still have dreams and passions at midlife. When circumstances forced me to give up my television news job last year, my husband stepped up and became the wind beneath my wings. He helped me soar to my greatest heights on a new career path and, sometimes, had to guide me back in the right direction when I was steering off course.
He now understands why I spend so many hours on the computer doing research and answering emails and promoting what I do. He’s finally figuring out the fact that menopause pays benefits and so does “all things baby boomer.”
But more importantly, he is pursuing his own midlife passions with a goal to be healthy and fit for as long as possible. www.healthylivingboomerstyle.com
Please join me in welcoming my better baby boomer half into cyberspace. Also check out his blog: www.healthylivingboomerstyle.blogspot.com
You’re going to be hearing A LOT from us!
We are two intelligent and highly motivated individuals who still have dreams and passions at midlife. When circumstances forced me to give up my television news job last year, my husband stepped up and became the wind beneath my wings. He helped me soar to my greatest heights on a new career path and, sometimes, had to guide me back in the right direction when I was steering off course.
He now understands why I spend so many hours on the computer doing research and answering emails and promoting what I do. He’s finally figuring out the fact that menopause pays benefits and so does “all things baby boomer.”
But more importantly, he is pursuing his own midlife passions with a goal to be healthy and fit for as long as possible. www.healthylivingboomerstyle.com
Please join me in welcoming my better baby boomer half into cyberspace. Also check out his blog: www.healthylivingboomerstyle.blogspot.com
You’re going to be hearing A LOT from us!
Monday, June 18, 2007
Myths about Menopause
Myth #1
When you go into menopause your sex life is over.
WRONG!
One of the symptoms of perimenopause and menopause is vaginal dryness and the hormonal imbalance can trigger a lack of desire but just like everything else, you can overcome it.
There are plenty of vaginal creams on the market to help soothe the dryness and a vitamin E pill inserted in the vagina can also do the trick.
As far as the lack of sexual desire, you may have to work a little harder on creating the mood mentally and physically but it can be done. Take yourself back to a time in your relationship when the lovin was incredible and meditate on that. Also, don't be afraid to let your mate know what you like and don't like. If he loves you and wants to please you, he shouldn't have any problem doing it your way.
My husband makes me hotter than a hot flash because we have learned how to communicate effectively in the bedroom.
I’m Packin’ up my Menopause and Headin’ South
This week I'm kicking off my summer book tour with "Whatever! A Baby Boomer's Journey Into Middle Age." Tagging along with me will be the seven dwarfs of menopause (along with some of their annoying cousins). I'd love to leave them at home with my husband but, just like me, he's had to endure them and, bless his heart, they've been harder on him sometimes than on me. So I'm packing them up and taking them with me. Oh what fun this should be...me, and hot flashes, having one HOT time!
On Wednesday, June 20th I'm making a guest appearance on the Fox8 Morning News Show in Greensboro/High Point. On Thursday, June 21, its on to Charlotte, NC where I will be a guest on Fox News Rising (Fox18). At noon, I will be doing a book signing at Park Roads Books, also in Charlotte.
Now it just so happens that Thursday, June 21---the first day of summer---is also my 50th birthday so I guess me and the dwarfs are all gonna be celebrating this new milestone together.
If you’d like to schedule me and my menopause crew for an interview, book signing or as a guest speaker, please contact me directly at 301-356-6280 or via email at bmahone@nc.rr.com
When you go into menopause your sex life is over.
WRONG!
One of the symptoms of perimenopause and menopause is vaginal dryness and the hormonal imbalance can trigger a lack of desire but just like everything else, you can overcome it.
There are plenty of vaginal creams on the market to help soothe the dryness and a vitamin E pill inserted in the vagina can also do the trick.
As far as the lack of sexual desire, you may have to work a little harder on creating the mood mentally and physically but it can be done. Take yourself back to a time in your relationship when the lovin was incredible and meditate on that. Also, don't be afraid to let your mate know what you like and don't like. If he loves you and wants to please you, he shouldn't have any problem doing it your way.
My husband makes me hotter than a hot flash because we have learned how to communicate effectively in the bedroom.
I’m Packin’ up my Menopause and Headin’ South
This week I'm kicking off my summer book tour with "Whatever! A Baby Boomer's Journey Into Middle Age." Tagging along with me will be the seven dwarfs of menopause (along with some of their annoying cousins). I'd love to leave them at home with my husband but, just like me, he's had to endure them and, bless his heart, they've been harder on him sometimes than on me. So I'm packing them up and taking them with me. Oh what fun this should be...me, and hot flashes, having one HOT time!
On Wednesday, June 20th I'm making a guest appearance on the Fox8 Morning News Show in Greensboro/High Point. On Thursday, June 21, its on to Charlotte, NC where I will be a guest on Fox News Rising (Fox18). At noon, I will be doing a book signing at Park Roads Books, also in Charlotte.
Now it just so happens that Thursday, June 21---the first day of summer---is also my 50th birthday so I guess me and the dwarfs are all gonna be celebrating this new milestone together.
If you’d like to schedule me and my menopause crew for an interview, book signing or as a guest speaker, please contact me directly at 301-356-6280 or via email at bmahone@nc.rr.com
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