I’m a Christian, a wife, mother, grandmother, baby boomer---and I enjoy sex! I can just hear someone reading this say “What?! Yes, I’m a baby boomer woman who enjoys intimacy and I’m not embarrassed to say so.
It’s not a topic I openly discuss because, quite frankly, my fellow, married baby boomer girlfriends aren’t interested in sharing details of what goes on in their bedrooms. And my girlfriends, who are single, don’t want me to know if they’re committing a sin. Of course, I would never provide explicit details of my love life but I have no problem letting anyone, who asks, know I love my husband in every possible way.
If you’re a baby boomer, Christian and married, I encourage you to read the Song of Solomon. I think this book of the Bible may have been a revelation by God of the way real love between a man and a woman should be and that sex in a marriage is to be celebrated.
If you’re a baby boomer, I also invite you to tune into my internet radio show on Monday, May 26 when I discuss Christian Women and Sex with other married women who share my sentiments. That’s on BlogTalk Radio at 12pm EST.
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.” Song of Solomon 1:2
Saturday, May 24, 2008
Saturday, May 17, 2008
Maxine is NOT a Baby Boomer Mom I Identify With
Every Mother’s Day someone is always sending me a card. This year I received several from girlfriends around the country.
One card stuck out. It was one of those “Maxine” cards. They’re a part of the Hallmark Shoebox Greeting Card collection. As I stared at the character on the front of the card I asked myself, “Why would someone think to send this to me?” Maybe she thought I had a “Maxine-like” personality or that I would just get a kick out of what the card had to say.
The Maxine cards were created 1986 by a man named John Wagner. The Hallmark artist said the crabby character was inspired by his mother, his maiden aunts and his grandmother.
Now that may have been OK 20 years ago, but things have changed since then. When a group of bloggers, which included myself, were invited to the Hallmark Headquarters last year to offer input, a few of us tried to tell them that Maxine needed to be updated. Many Baby Boomer women don't see themselves in that image. Don't they know 50 is the new 30? Maxine can still be sassy---but you could add some classy to that as well.
Let this blog serve as notice to my friends: Next Mother’s Day, send money instead and don’t worry about the card.
One card stuck out. It was one of those “Maxine” cards. They’re a part of the Hallmark Shoebox Greeting Card collection. As I stared at the character on the front of the card I asked myself, “Why would someone think to send this to me?” Maybe she thought I had a “Maxine-like” personality or that I would just get a kick out of what the card had to say.
The Maxine cards were created 1986 by a man named John Wagner. The Hallmark artist said the crabby character was inspired by his mother, his maiden aunts and his grandmother.
Now that may have been OK 20 years ago, but things have changed since then. When a group of bloggers, which included myself, were invited to the Hallmark Headquarters last year to offer input, a few of us tried to tell them that Maxine needed to be updated. Many Baby Boomer women don't see themselves in that image. Don't they know 50 is the new 30? Maxine can still be sassy---but you could add some classy to that as well.
Let this blog serve as notice to my friends: Next Mother’s Day, send money instead and don’t worry about the card.
Friday, May 09, 2008
Judy Davids: Rocker Mom & True Baby Boomer Diva
On March 7 of this year, Judy Davids became an official member of the Baby Boomer Diva Web of Fame. Why was she selected? Because she's a woman over 40, who's on the move and making a difference!
I first came in contact with Judy when she wrote to nominate herself for a Boomer Diva Award (given out during the First Annual Baby Boomer Girlfriend's Spring Break in Daytona Beach last month. She told me her story. She was 42 when she picked up a guitar for the first time and decided to take guitar lessons. From there, a rock band called The Mydols was formed. Don't you love love that name??? The group consists of four Midwestern housewives/mothers who are capturing the heart of young rockers around the country.
What has impressed me so much about Judy is her level of commitment and passion. She made 40 a turning point in her life and she's proving that you can make positive things happen in your life if you dare to dream. She has a book she's promoting: Rock Star Mommy: My Life as a Rocker Mom and it's one I endorse wholeheartedly!
Judy Davids is a Baby Boomer Diva in every sense of the word!
I first came in contact with Judy when she wrote to nominate herself for a Boomer Diva Award (given out during the First Annual Baby Boomer Girlfriend's Spring Break in Daytona Beach last month. She told me her story. She was 42 when she picked up a guitar for the first time and decided to take guitar lessons. From there, a rock band called The Mydols was formed. Don't you love love that name??? The group consists of four Midwestern housewives/mothers who are capturing the heart of young rockers around the country.
What has impressed me so much about Judy is her level of commitment and passion. She made 40 a turning point in her life and she's proving that you can make positive things happen in your life if you dare to dream. She has a book she's promoting: Rock Star Mommy: My Life as a Rocker Mom and it's one I endorse wholeheartedly!
Judy Davids is a Baby Boomer Diva in every sense of the word!
Saturday, May 03, 2008
Michelle Obama--A True Baby Boomer Diva
Yesterday I had the pleasure of meeting Michelle Obama. Now for those of you who have been living in a cave over the past 15 months, Michelle is the wife of Democratic Presidential candidate Barack Obama.
Michelle came to Durham, NC to campaign for her husband. She was supposed to speak at 12:30pm but due to bad weather in the Midwest, she arrived and spoke more than two hours later. But her tardiness didn't seem to matter to the standing room only crowd. While waiting, we actually sat around and talked to each other---black, white, hispanic, young and old. It was a refreshing site to see. Not one hate monger in the crowd.
Michelle is even more impressive in person than she is on television. She is poised and assertive. She has a sense of humor and she can deliver a speech without NOTES. It's so obvious she and Barack have a REAL relationship and not something they have to make up for the cameras. She is also a beautiful example of what it's like to grow up in humble beginnings---unlike the way she and Barack have been depicted by some media as "elitists." She reminds me a lot of myself.
Following her speech I had a chance to actually meet her and gave her an autographed copy of my book, Whatever! A Baby Boomer's Journey Into Middle Age, along with a T-shirt donning the face of my grandson wearing an OBAMA hat.
It gives me great pleasure to welcome this dynamic baby boomer diva into the Baby Boomer Diva Web of Fame.
Michelle came to Durham, NC to campaign for her husband. She was supposed to speak at 12:30pm but due to bad weather in the Midwest, she arrived and spoke more than two hours later. But her tardiness didn't seem to matter to the standing room only crowd. While waiting, we actually sat around and talked to each other---black, white, hispanic, young and old. It was a refreshing site to see. Not one hate monger in the crowd.
Michelle is even more impressive in person than she is on television. She is poised and assertive. She has a sense of humor and she can deliver a speech without NOTES. It's so obvious she and Barack have a REAL relationship and not something they have to make up for the cameras. She is also a beautiful example of what it's like to grow up in humble beginnings---unlike the way she and Barack have been depicted by some media as "elitists." She reminds me a lot of myself.
Following her speech I had a chance to actually meet her and gave her an autographed copy of my book, Whatever! A Baby Boomer's Journey Into Middle Age, along with a T-shirt donning the face of my grandson wearing an OBAMA hat.
It gives me great pleasure to welcome this dynamic baby boomer diva into the Baby Boomer Diva Web of Fame.
Friday, May 02, 2008
Barbara Walters had an Affair
On Tuesday, May 5 Barbara Walters will tell Oprah and her audience all about her affair with former United States Senator Edward Brooke. She called him "exciting" and "brilliant."
For those of you who don't know, Brooke was a Black Republican from Massachusetts who took office in 1967. He was the first black man to be popularly elected to the Senate. According to the talk show queen, her affair with Brooke lasted for several years during the 1970's.
The sit-down with Oprah is part of the release of her memoir called "Audition," which covers her long career in television, as well as her off-camera life.
Is it me or don't you see the hypocrisy in this? I mean Barbara chastised Monica Lewinsky back in 1999 for her affair with former President Clinton when, in essence, they both did the same thing---they cheated with a married man.
I guess when you're pushing 80-years-old you may feel the need to come clean with the darker side of your life. But you know what, I have a feeling she isn't telling the REST of HER story.
I guess in my next book I'll share my affair with another public official from Massachusetts. But I think I'll give him the courtesy of being dead before I do.
For those of you who don't know, Brooke was a Black Republican from Massachusetts who took office in 1967. He was the first black man to be popularly elected to the Senate. According to the talk show queen, her affair with Brooke lasted for several years during the 1970's.
The sit-down with Oprah is part of the release of her memoir called "Audition," which covers her long career in television, as well as her off-camera life.
Is it me or don't you see the hypocrisy in this? I mean Barbara chastised Monica Lewinsky back in 1999 for her affair with former President Clinton when, in essence, they both did the same thing---they cheated with a married man.
I guess when you're pushing 80-years-old you may feel the need to come clean with the darker side of your life. But you know what, I have a feeling she isn't telling the REST of HER story.
I guess in my next book I'll share my affair with another public official from Massachusetts. But I think I'll give him the courtesy of being dead before I do.
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Star Jones Getting a Divorce
For those of you who said it would NEVER last--you were right. Star Jones has filed for a divorce from her husband of three years, Al Reynolds.
In a statement to Entertainment Tonight, The baby boomer diva said, "Several years ago I made an error in judgment by inviting the media into the most intimate area of my life. A month ago I filed for divorce. The dissolution of a marriage is a difficult time in anyone's life that requires privacy with one's thoughts."
Is there anyone reading this who thought it would last? This brings me to a point. Women who reach middle age shouldn't be so eager to get married that they end up making the wrong choice. What's more important---your biological clock or your happily-ever-after?
Sadly, too many sisters feel the need to be married by a certain age and some of them are even pressured by family and friends to take that trip down the aisle---and I do mean "trip!"
You need to read chapter two of my book, Whatever! A Baby Boomer's Journey Into Middle Age. The chapter is titled, "Lordy, Lordy, Are There Any Good men Still Left Over 40" to gain some perspective on what to look for in a mate at middle age.
I found it interesting that Star was quoted as saying this in People Magazine shortly after she and Al married:
"Every single wedding fantasy I ever had was fulfilled, down to the most handsome groom in the history of the world."
What she failed to mention was a keyword called LOVE. And as my mama once told me, "It's better to be alone and happy than married and miserable!" It's some of the best advice she ever gave me.
In a statement to Entertainment Tonight, The baby boomer diva said, "Several years ago I made an error in judgment by inviting the media into the most intimate area of my life. A month ago I filed for divorce. The dissolution of a marriage is a difficult time in anyone's life that requires privacy with one's thoughts."
Is there anyone reading this who thought it would last? This brings me to a point. Women who reach middle age shouldn't be so eager to get married that they end up making the wrong choice. What's more important---your biological clock or your happily-ever-after?
Sadly, too many sisters feel the need to be married by a certain age and some of them are even pressured by family and friends to take that trip down the aisle---and I do mean "trip!"
You need to read chapter two of my book, Whatever! A Baby Boomer's Journey Into Middle Age. The chapter is titled, "Lordy, Lordy, Are There Any Good men Still Left Over 40" to gain some perspective on what to look for in a mate at middle age.
I found it interesting that Star was quoted as saying this in People Magazine shortly after she and Al married:
"Every single wedding fantasy I ever had was fulfilled, down to the most handsome groom in the history of the world."
What she failed to mention was a keyword called LOVE. And as my mama once told me, "It's better to be alone and happy than married and miserable!" It's some of the best advice she ever gave me.
Monday, April 21, 2008
Baby Boomer Girlfriend's Spring Break
If you weren't there, no words will truly describe the emotional impact of attending the First Annual Girlfriend's Spring Break in Daytona Beach.
Let me just say this: My purpose was to Educate, Entertain and Empower women throughout the weekend. As opposed to me explaining it, why don't you read what one of the attendees had to say:
Hi Sisters!
I don't even know where to begin to describe this weekend to you. No words can explain what was experienced by each of us. From the moment that Beverly and I met at the airport until the tears and the final goodbyes this morning, the love for each other and the love of God permeated the atmosphere among the sisters.
I have no question in my mind that we are all truly Divinely Inspired, Vivacious, and Anointed. All of you who couldn't come were continually in thought and very much a part of us here.
I've been to many women's retreats in the past, but nothing that could ever rival this one. Each and every lady is beautiful in mind, body, and spirit. There was never an awkward moment when meeting anyone. It was more like a reunion of old friends. It was exciting as each woman appeared.
We laughed, cried, played, and prayed together. I enjoyed getting to talk with each one on a one-to-one basis. I felt a connection with each and every one of them.
Friday started with a briefing prior to leaving for the TV station. We loaded up on the van and headed for the station. If that driver only knew what precious cargo he had on that van! The taping went well. Beverly had put together a very distinguished panel of experts on women's issues. A few of us got to comment or ask questions. Bev was the consummate professional as she moderated the panel.
Saturday morning breakfast was fab! There weren't that many people here, so with all the options for seminars, we were spread a little thin, but the quality was certainly there. Rhea Becker, Debra Shively Welch, and Kathryn Little and I did a little Zumba workout outside, after which Growing Bolder interviewed us.
Bern Nadette Stanis came in a day late, because she had gotten food poisoning. She is a beautiful lady! She shared with us the importance of not wasting our precious time. She was definitely one of us and she had a great time at the P.J. party last night.
I can't wait for you to hear Jennifer Evans sing! Can that girl wail! She brought us to our feet and tears to our eyes. I hope that Bev got her on video, but if not...I did. When I get back home, I will download my video clips so that you can see them.
The dinner and pageant on Sat. night was so much fun! The comedian was hilarious. I laughed until my sides hurt and I thought the corners of my lips were going to split open. When Silky Waters took the stage, it was evident that this DIVA had stage experience. What a voice! I could have listened to her all night long. She is a character...and does this lady ever know how to dress!
The DIVA pageant was so fun! Each Diva strutted her stuff on the stage. Each with her own dignity, grace, and personality. It was informal and so much fun! I took pictures of each one as they took the stage.
A definite highlight of the event was the pajama party. I haven't had that much fun in I don't know when. Our inhibitions were left at the door and we danced our feet off. I'm telling you, these girls had some moves!
We found out it didn't take long to spend the night at the Hilton last night, because there wasn't much time between 2:30 am and 7:15 this morning.
Following breakfast on Sunday, we heard a stirring testimony from the very gorgeous and sweet Jo Kelly. What a sweetheart she is!
Jennifer graced us with more inspirational music and gave us all an autographed CD.
The pinnacle of the weekend was the one and only Rev. Ora. This is a woman who has the gift of the spoken word. I cried throughout her message to us of our place in Christ. At the end of her sermon, she recited her Divinely Framed poem. She had us to say aloud each letter of the ABCs. With each letter, she spoke a word of empowerment. She had a specific word from the Father for Kathryn. She ministered directly into her eyes and several of us gathered around and prayed for her.
Ladies...we had church this morning! The presence of the Holy Spirit was palpable. How awesome is His name above all others. Shirley Mitchell spoke truth when she said that she could see flames of holy fire coming from Ora. Shirley did the concluding comments and prayed a beautiful prayer. She is a beautiful lady, too.
In a nutshell ladies, be ready...because this group is going to grow in strength and numbers. We have much to accomplish. Please, please, please, begin today by setting aside a few dollars each week toward next year's retreat. You do not want to miss it!
To all of you who didn't get to come, you were missed.
To all of you who were here, you are missed.
Love to all of my sisters,
Pam
Let me just say this: My purpose was to Educate, Entertain and Empower women throughout the weekend. As opposed to me explaining it, why don't you read what one of the attendees had to say:
Hi Sisters!
I don't even know where to begin to describe this weekend to you. No words can explain what was experienced by each of us. From the moment that Beverly and I met at the airport until the tears and the final goodbyes this morning, the love for each other and the love of God permeated the atmosphere among the sisters.
I have no question in my mind that we are all truly Divinely Inspired, Vivacious, and Anointed. All of you who couldn't come were continually in thought and very much a part of us here.
I've been to many women's retreats in the past, but nothing that could ever rival this one. Each and every lady is beautiful in mind, body, and spirit. There was never an awkward moment when meeting anyone. It was more like a reunion of old friends. It was exciting as each woman appeared.
We laughed, cried, played, and prayed together. I enjoyed getting to talk with each one on a one-to-one basis. I felt a connection with each and every one of them.
Friday started with a briefing prior to leaving for the TV station. We loaded up on the van and headed for the station. If that driver only knew what precious cargo he had on that van! The taping went well. Beverly had put together a very distinguished panel of experts on women's issues. A few of us got to comment or ask questions. Bev was the consummate professional as she moderated the panel.
Saturday morning breakfast was fab! There weren't that many people here, so with all the options for seminars, we were spread a little thin, but the quality was certainly there. Rhea Becker, Debra Shively Welch, and Kathryn Little and I did a little Zumba workout outside, after which Growing Bolder interviewed us.
Bern Nadette Stanis came in a day late, because she had gotten food poisoning. She is a beautiful lady! She shared with us the importance of not wasting our precious time. She was definitely one of us and she had a great time at the P.J. party last night.
I can't wait for you to hear Jennifer Evans sing! Can that girl wail! She brought us to our feet and tears to our eyes. I hope that Bev got her on video, but if not...I did. When I get back home, I will download my video clips so that you can see them.
The dinner and pageant on Sat. night was so much fun! The comedian was hilarious. I laughed until my sides hurt and I thought the corners of my lips were going to split open. When Silky Waters took the stage, it was evident that this DIVA had stage experience. What a voice! I could have listened to her all night long. She is a character...and does this lady ever know how to dress!
The DIVA pageant was so fun! Each Diva strutted her stuff on the stage. Each with her own dignity, grace, and personality. It was informal and so much fun! I took pictures of each one as they took the stage.
A definite highlight of the event was the pajama party. I haven't had that much fun in I don't know when. Our inhibitions were left at the door and we danced our feet off. I'm telling you, these girls had some moves!
We found out it didn't take long to spend the night at the Hilton last night, because there wasn't much time between 2:30 am and 7:15 this morning.
Following breakfast on Sunday, we heard a stirring testimony from the very gorgeous and sweet Jo Kelly. What a sweetheart she is!
Jennifer graced us with more inspirational music and gave us all an autographed CD.
The pinnacle of the weekend was the one and only Rev. Ora. This is a woman who has the gift of the spoken word. I cried throughout her message to us of our place in Christ. At the end of her sermon, she recited her Divinely Framed poem. She had us to say aloud each letter of the ABCs. With each letter, she spoke a word of empowerment. She had a specific word from the Father for Kathryn. She ministered directly into her eyes and several of us gathered around and prayed for her.
Ladies...we had church this morning! The presence of the Holy Spirit was palpable. How awesome is His name above all others. Shirley Mitchell spoke truth when she said that she could see flames of holy fire coming from Ora. Shirley did the concluding comments and prayed a beautiful prayer. She is a beautiful lady, too.
In a nutshell ladies, be ready...because this group is going to grow in strength and numbers. We have much to accomplish. Please, please, please, begin today by setting aside a few dollars each week toward next year's retreat. You do not want to miss it!
To all of you who didn't get to come, you were missed.
To all of you who were here, you are missed.
Love to all of my sisters,
Pam
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Passing the Torch from Baby Boomers to Millennials to Gen Z
Whether baby boomers can accept it or not, a changing of the guard has taken place with millennials and the up and coming Gen Z generations...
